Why Not Just Adopt?
July 12, 2010 in egg donor blog by Kate
How do you respond to people who say “there are so many orphans in this world, don’t you think everyone should just adopt? why is egg donation so important?
Adoption, surrogacy or IVF is a very personal choice and shouldn’t be dertermined by something that would fit on a bumper sticker. The reasons a parent chooses to adopt or use an egg donor have nothing to do with my choice to become an egg donor, much like my eggs have no bearing on their decision not to adopt. I can understand a jillion and one percent why someone would choose an egg donor over adoption, and I think comparing the two are like apples to oranges. But, again, that’s not a decision I need to make or justify–or one you’d need to make–in being an egg donor.
I think there are several very good reasons for this:
1. Adopting a child is not always easy, or even possible because of the bureaucratic procedures, checks and so on. It can take years only to find out that the authorities deems you not suitable for adoption. Precious years of parenthood that will be wasted forever.
2. We human beings are hardwired on a very deep level to pass on our own genes. Egg donation makes it possible to do so.