I’m in the process of doing egg donation and I actually have the removal scheduled in 2 days, I’m freaking out a little. You probably get this question a lot but how much does it hurt? How will I feel afterwards? Also my boyfriend doesn’t know I’m doing this, so how long after can I go back to sexual intercourse?
Congrats on getting to the end! I bet you’re waddling a little, huh? It’s weird, huh? I know. Okay, so the retrieval may be the most nerve-racking part to think about, but it’s one of the easiest parts, because you’re asleep the whole time. Like, knocked OUT. You go in to the doctor, usually pretty early in the morning, and you’re escorted like a VIP to the surgical part of the clinic. And you change and lie down, and go into the procedure room. And then you meet the most amazing person you’ll ever meet: Your anesthesiologist. It’s his (or her, but I never had a her in all my donations) job to make you sooooooo comfortable And boy do they ever. They don’t just knock you out, but they give you all kinds of relaxing preps beforehand. First, they rub some kind of cold cotton ball swap thing on the site of where they’ll insert your IV, so that you don’t even feel that happening, you just know because s/he’s telling you it is. Then, THEN, s/he will inject into your IV something to “relax you.” Whatever the heck is in that syringe is amazing. All the sudden, you just go warm. As far as you’ll be concerned, they could start cutting off your hair and tattooing your legs right then and there, and you’d be totally fine with it. But then comes the the kicker: The drugs. You’ll be asked to count backwards from ten. Honestly? I don’t remember EVER getting to 9. And then you wake up what feels like immediately, but it’s about 40-45 minutes later. You’ll be pretty groggy and out of it, but then you’ll snap to, you’ll be freezing and you’ll get apple juice and cookies or something hospital-y. After about an hour, maybe less, the nurse will determine you’re probs okay to be escorted outta there. You won’t really feel like anything had happened–maybe it’ll feel like you have period cramps, but there won’t be any pain; I never even bled. There shouldn’t be any pain related to the surgery at all. That said, the next day, maybe the day after that, you’ll need to poop for the first time since the surgery. That’ll hurt. It’ll really, really hurt. Not because of the surgery, per say, but because you have had some serious trauma up in your abdomen, and the muscles you use when you’re pushing out a kid from your uterus (ground zero) are the same muscles that you use when you’re pooping, which is why women poop on the delivery table all the time. It’s all connected. Just know nothing is causing any sort of damage, it’s mind over matter. You’ll need to take it easy for a few days, but then you can ease back into your life as you feel better. You will have swelling, and maybe some cramping, but none of it should last more than 3 days, mayyyyyyybe 4. As for getting back to your active, real life, give yourself about a week. Drink your electrolytes, get back into a routine and know you’ve gained about 5, 6, 7 pounds–they won’t just fall off, you’ll need to work them off as if it were holiday eating. As for your boyfriend: Consider telling him if you’re serious about him, first of all; this isn’t something you neglect to mention, you know? It’s not like you were an egg donor before you met him, you’re with him as you’re going through the process, he should know. You don’t have to care what he thinks about it, but you’re his business, and that–honestly–makes this his business. If you two end up, like, getting married or something, this is one heck of a by-the-way, you know? That said, none of that is my business, so live your life, boo. The sex part, though: If it were me, I’d wait until my next period to be sure. We’re all adults here, and you can wait 10 more days to have sex; you’ve probs waited 3 weeks already. It’s really not that hard–you won’t even wanna have sex for about a week, I promise you, so what’s another few days? If this sounds, like, an insane suggestion, then just wait 10 days–at least. Good luck with everything, you’re almost at the end!!